Getting Comfortable

Comfort is something that a lot of people seek. They wish to enjoy comfort at home, most likely wish they had some level of it at work and it can be seen as many other things in non-verbal communication.

So today we will attempt to understand what a person might look like when they are comfortable around other people. In business this can be very useful because if someone is not comfortable around you then it is likely they won’t trust you. Watching comfort and discomfort between two individuals can be a very interesting yet subtle show. So to help you understand this show I will now give example of what people may look like when they are comfortable around each other.

The single thing that I find most interesting when it comes to the topic of comfort between two individuals is mirroring. You may have seen this and had not recognized what it meant at the time. As the picture below shows there are two people sitting opposite from each other. You will notice that the way that they are sitting almost directly mirrors the other persons “pose”. What this tells us is that they could be very comfortable around each other. Mirroring happens in facial emotions as well. If one person smiles the other person may smile. If one person is crying, the other may begin to start tearing up.

Another way of telling a person’s comfort level with another is by how close they are to that person. Lets look again at the photo above. Look at how close these two individuals are sitting to each other; they are almost touching each other legs. People who are uncomfortable with the other person would most likely have their legs almost pressed against the legs of the chair, trying to keep as much distance from the other person as possible.

There are a few subtle signs that you should also attempt to notice such as when a person moves an object out of their way to get a better view of the other person. Another would be just how openly they are showing their torso and inner arms. This shows signs of openness as well as comfort because people are a lot less likely to show their vital spots to those they find discomforting.

Notice these signs and you may be able to connect with others more easily when first meeting them.

For the Animators: Animators can use this information in many different ways. Depending on if two characters are supposed to be comfortable with each other you may have them close or farther apart. You may also have them mirror each other; however if you do this, it is best to make it as subtle and almost unnoticeable as possible or something may seem “off” to the audience.

References: Picture -http://www.learnbodylanguage.org/male_flirting_3.html